Home, Home at last!

Finally! My youngest step son A is home! It was only suppose to be a 4 week ordeal and ended up being over 6! Crazy! AS you can imagine we weren’t thrilled about the deceit and the extra time stolen from us! But none of that matters because A is finally home! We will get to the lawyer with a more strict summer custody arrangement later for now we are just enjoying the fact that he is home!

Poor little guy is covered in bug bits from mosquito’s apparently he was fishing almost daily with no type of bug protection and he is bitten so bad he has tiny scabs and bite marks covering his whole body! His dad is currently slathering him up in anti-itch and antibiotic creams right now to hopefully help him out! I feel bad for him, I’m also a bit peeved that in 6 weeks not once did anyone bother to get him so bug repellent considering how badly he was getting attacked! Oh well, his BM has never been very good at being the parent she’s pretty good at being a friend figure but not so good at being a parent figure! At least he is home now where he will be well cared for and we won’t have to worry about whether his basic needs are being met…

I know it’s horrible to say but I am so happy that we won’t have to worry bout to much interaction until next summer. I’m glad he got to see her I know he missed her a lot but I’m also glad that he doesn’t have to deal with as many broken promises now that she moved out of state… When she lived in town she was suppose to have him every other weekend but most weekends she cancelled and would break her promise to see him the next weekend… then she would try to flip the situation to make him feel bad for her instead of mad at her including telling him that it’s Reds fault that she is poor unlike us… those were her exact words… we aren’t rich we work our asses off for everything we have and in the 12 years I have known her she has never worked for more than 3 months at a job with long breaks of unemployment between jobs I’m talking years at a time with no work… so it’s not that she’s poor but that she makes poor decisions and this is not our fault… but I’m not about to get into that with a 12 year old we try to teach him that good choices and bad choices have a large impact on quality of life and we try to teach him the value of a dollar… I digress that is a whole different topic I wasn’t really planning on getting into!

No matter what I’m just glad that he is finally home where I know he will be well cared for and have a ton of positive influence on his life while he is in our home and hopefully that will override the bad influence from his BM…

 

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Holy smokes 28 weeks!

I can’t believe it! We are officially in the third trimester! I’ve dreamed for years about creating our family and being pregnant and having that little bundle of joy in our arms! Now we are actually in the third trimester! We are in the home stretch of pregnancy! We are headed towards that day when we will finally get to meet and hold our son!!!!

I can’t wait to meet him! I wonder what he looks like and what traits from who he will get! I wonder if he’ll have my eyes or Reds, I wonder if he’ll be a red head like his daddy or have my odd colored hair it was black when I was born but changed to an ash blonde as I have gotten older it has gotten darker and I’m now a brunette… I wonder if he’ll have my crooked smile Reds adorable freckles. I wonder how big he will be will he be long and lean like me or thick boned and long like like his dad… I dream of what he will look like on a daily basis…

Now that we are in the homestretch I feel like we have a million things to do in order to get ready for his arrival! I want to get the nursery finished by the time my older kids go back to school because time flies so quickly once the school year starts! But that is only 3 weeks to finish the nursery and with it being ridiculously hot outside I don’t know if that will happen! On the plus side my hubby is hooking up a swamp cooler on the porch so that I can do some work in the evening without feeling like I’m going to die from the heat!

Hopefully I can get it done! I’m not too worried about the decor part but I’d like to have the dresser and changing table done so that I can start organizing and I’ll worry about decor later! I’m also doing my baby shower August 13th so I need to get my house nice n clean and ready for that as well! Today I bought the decorations and invitations. I wrote out all the invitations and realized I still need fricken stamps to be able to mail them all out! Ugh I’m not running to the store again especially in this heat!!! So tomorrow morning I will worry about going out and getting them!

I think I figured out all that I want to do for decorations for the nursery! I have a tiny tiny nursery because we sectioned off part of our room for the nursery so it’s really a small area but I still want little man to have his own space and get to enjoy the decor part!  so I’m going to enjoy the next 3 weeks of doing things and getting ready because come the school year things are going to be crazy!

I still can’t believe we are finally in the third trimester! by the end of this trimester we will get to meet our son!!!!! I am so excited to meet him and hold him and kiss him!!!!

Crazy ass day!

Today was my best friends baby shower! I went over early so that I could help set up and get everything ready! The day was fun we played games and ate a lot of food it was awesome!

Near the end of the day is when everything went crazy. One of the guest was a little 5 year old that was honestly a bit crazy she was all over the place jumping on people and demanding attention and okay I get it her dad didn’t want to discipline her in front of a bunch of people that he didn’t know but she needed some boundaries and he was not setting any for her…

The little girl came up to me and said “you have a big belly too” my best friend tells her “thats because she has a baby in her belly too” the little girl steps back to look up at me and then headbutts me hard as hell right in the stomach… I told her she can’t do that and went and told her parents (yes I a grown ass woman tattled on her) and they did nothing not even explain to her why she shouldn’t do things like headbutt a stranger…

I was a bit irritated that they did nothing but my stomach got super tight when it happened and I was super uncomfortable … 20 minutes later it was still very tight and I had a few random pains in my woohoo so I went home (the party was over anyways) I told Red what happened and laid down with a glass of water and put my feet up after an hour my tummy wasn’t tight but I was still getting pains in my woohoo on and off so I called my dr… she said nothing was probably wrong but better safe then sorry and sent me down to the hospital to get checked out!

Red got home and took me to the hospital where they did an assessment everything was just fine… my pains decreased and they did an ultrasound to check for abruption in the placenta everything looked good so they did my RH shot and took some blood to make sure no blood n blood problems occurred and sent us on our way! On the plus side I finally got to see what the labor and delivery ward looked like at the hospital I plan on delivering at and I also am now registered for when I do go into labor! They said the pain in my woohoo was an irritated cervix and to just go home drink plenty of fluids and relax for the next couple of days! I’m so glad everything is okay but it was pretty freaky I’m so glad to be home now! This little boy was moving like crazy the whole time we were there and I’m glad we got to see him again! So much better to be safe and have peace of mind rather than to be home and not taking measures that we needed…

The moral of the story is that some 5 year olds are assholes…

27 weeks and 5 days

Since I seem to only remember these pregnancy question at the end of the week at least I’m keeping them about the same day!

How Far along: 27 weeks and 5 days

Total Weight Gain: 25lbs

Maternity Clothes: yes yes

Movement: yes and getting very regular about every 2-3 hours he is awake and moving like crazy! I literally can watch him make my belly do the wave lol

Stretch marks: not yet and hopefully I won’t get to many

Sleep: is uncomfortable I switch sides often and get cramps in my hips

Best moments: Feeling him have the hiccups and Red getting to feel it too! poor like guy started getting mad after about a minute he’d hiccup and the kick me really hard on the opposite side I felt the hiccups so I don’t think he liked them much lol

Miss Anything: sushi, wine, beer, and deli sandwhiches when all is said n done I’m going to get a giant sandwhich from portasubs!

Food Cravings:deli sandwhiches lol j/k not craving anything in specific just hungry all the time…

Anything make you feel queasy or sick: raw meat!

Showing:Yes very much so!

Gender: Boy

Labor signs: not yet thank goodness

Symptoms: bloody sinuses, bleeding gums, heartburn and forgetfulness

Belly Button: in but it has gotten wider and more shallow!

Wedding Rings: off 😦

Mood: Excited, happy most of the time, now that we’re pretty much in the third trimester I am less afraid and mostly just happy the paranoia is pretty much gone at this point and I’m just happy that we are so close to having little one be a part of our family and finally feel like we have beat infertility and we are about to finally reach the dreams that we have had so for so long!

Looking forward to: Having the nursery finished, Being in the homestretch and meeting little guy all in the I can’t believe that we have 12 weeks til our due date!

Co-parenting vent

So we have shared custody of my Youngest step son A… His mom moved outta state last august and has been unable to visit since well this summer with about a weeks notice she says she has a ride for A out to her and then he can fly back a few days after his birthday! Today is his birthday… Well we were upset by the very little amount of notice and Red didn’t want to send him off without having the flight information….but she promised that his ride (her mom)   was leaving Wednesday June 23rd and she would be buying the ticket that Friday June 25th and begged for him to be able to go on that Wednesday so that she could get the 2 extra days with her mom… Red agreed and Friday rolled around and she still hadn’t bought the ticket… He’s been asking her every time we call A if she has the information yet and she keeps having an excuse for not yet… Today July 20th (A’s 12th birthday) she finally calls Red and says his ticket is booked for July 31st! I am so pissed so now not only has he missed my birthday but she made it so that we missed his birthday and won’t even see him till 11 days later!

This is not what we agreed to! I’m so angry! I feel like a fool for ever agreeing to let him go when she didn’t have the ticket ahead of time! We have spoken to a lawyer about the situation and are taking steps to prevent this type of crap from ever happening again but I’m so mad! This bitch  can’t ever get her shit together we already agreed to 5 weeks with him across the country and out of reach and he has never ever been gone this long and now she’s extended it from 5 weeks 7 weeks! She’s never been there for him constantly making promises and breaking them and now thinks that she has some sort of rights to keep him for over half the summer  break are you kidding me!!! Now he will get back and have 2 and half weeks of vacation with us before having to go back to school! It’s so ridiculous!!!!

Technically she left without verifying the court and so we could file abandonment charges the only reason we even agreed to it is because A misses her and wanted to go so badly we let him go for him not for her and she is once again taking advantage of Reds kindness and love for his son! If it weren’t for the fact that taking away all of her rights would hurt A she wouldn’t have any right now!

video update

26 weeks update

How Far along: 26 weeks and 5 days

Total Weight Gain: 22 lbs or so (not keeping track weekly)

Maternity Clothes: yes!

Movement: yes and I love it he is starting to get into an actual routine there are certain times a day that he moves like in the morning 7-8 am, afternoon 2-4 pm, and evening 9-11 pm! other time through out the day but always during those times…

Stretch marks: not yet 🙂 or at least not that I can see!

Sleep: sucks between getting up to pee and my hips bothering me I wake up a lot!

Best moments: When ever he moves I am so excited!

Miss Anything: being able to dip my toast in eggs, sushi, beer on a hot summer night or wine with a meal 🙂 Going camping and hiking!

Food Cravings: Beer I have been craving a corona with lime or a Reds apple cider obviously I’m not indulging in that but I have been craving it.

Anything make you feel queasy or sick: Raw meet and the smell of it when it first starts cooking… I love cooking so not being able to cut up raw chicken or make my own hamburgers has been rough but Hubby is helping me out so I still get home cooked meals 🙂

Showing: Yes, I feel like I’ve had a growth spurt my belly has been itchy and uncomfortable so I think I’m going through another growth spurt…

Gender: Boy

Labor signs: no thank goodness but I think I had a braxton hicks contraction, my belly got super hard it wasn’t painful but it was really hard!

Symptoms: indigestion, cramps in my hips, itchy belly, dry bloody sinuses, and pregnancy brain I can’t remember crap lol

Belly Button: is in but getting bigger and I can see the bottom of it clearly

Wedding Rings: off 😦  I miss my rings

Mood: Happy, excited starting to feel the urge to have everything done and ready for little man!!!

Looking forward to: getting the nursery finished, planning and prepping for my baby shower, starting to think about birth a lot ! I’m looking forward to the third trimester! I am also very excited about the fact that we are half way through July so half way through the summer which means the end of the heat is within sight about half way through August the temperature will start going down! YAY for better weather so that I can go back to enjoying walks!

birthclass fail…

Red and I went to a hypnobirthing class was held at the local babies R us it was just the introduction to see if you wanted to pay for the class and to just give some brief insights… I was excited to see what it was about and Red was nice enough (and off work) to be able to accompany me! However, when we arrived there were only 2 other couples and then we waited and waited and eventually one of the store employees came forward and said that the speaker still hadn’t showed and they couldn’t get a hold of her…

As a group we all chatted away while the employee made a ton of phone calls to see what happened… in the end the class was cancelled, but we each got a goody bag full of free samples as retribution over our wasted time… so even though I didn’t get to check out the class we got 2 packs of baby wipes tons of other samples so I guess it wasn’t a complete waste of time but I had hoped to learn something…

I came home and went to youtube and watched a ton of birth class videos and some intro to Bradley method and some other natural labor methods… I think I want to get the book for the Bradley method and read it instead of taking the class mostly because of cost… the class cost around $300 and the book is $15 so I will get the book and hopefully Red will read it with me…

I’ve received a lot of criticism over wanting to do labor without an epidural but I really feel pulled towards an all natural birth! The Epidural scares me and many reports show that an epidural can slow down labor and cause a dropped heart rate in the baby which is one of the main causes for c-section! Not to mention that there is something going into your spine and that just scares the crap out of me! I know I could eventually change my mind but holy smokes that scares me! So I’m trying to do as much research as I can on a natural labor to help prepare my brain for it!

tired…

From week 20-24 I had a ton of energy and I felt great… these last 2 weeks I have been exhausted! I’m not sure if it’s from the heat or from baby having a growth spurt but I am exhausted! I could easily lay down and take a nap and I am not the napping kind of person! Naps just keep me feeling super tired! Like I could take a nap and wake up feeling like I never had a nap and that’s after sleeping for hours! SO I tend to just stick it out but my eyelids already feel heavy like it’s going to be hard to stay awake!!!

Tonight I have a class on hypnobirthing and breastfeeding it might be a bit early for the breastfeeding class but I’m excited about the hypnobirthing class and seeing what it’s all about! It’s just an intro class but it sounds interesting and I feel like I need to start learning more about birth and the process I would like to go as drug free as possible my siblings all laugh at me for saying that but I still would like to try and the more I know the more likely I am to stick with my plan… so I am looking forward to that and I’m going to start learning more and reading more about birth and the whole laboring process…

And I did another vlog if anyone is interested in watching it 🙂

25 weeks and 5 days

How Far along: 25 weeks and 5 days

Total Weight Gain: 22 lbs

Maternity Clothes: yes

Movement: yes

Stretch marks: not yet fingers crossed! My belly has been itchy lately so I think it’s stretch again…

Sleep: interrupted by the amount of times I have to get up and pee

Best moments:watching my tummy move from his movement

Miss Anything: cold beer on a hot day! Being able to go for walks (thats more from the heat than pregnancy)

Food Cravings: Not craving much anymore just hungry all the time

Anything make you feel queasy or sick: Handling raw meat

Showing: yes

Gender: Boy

Labor signs: no not yet thank goodness

Symptoms: tired, hungry, headaches come and go, leg cramps (woke up with a charlie horse last night), gotten dizzy a few times but I think the heat is partially to blame, and acne…

Belly Button: in

Wedding Rings: off

Mood: pretty stable, although it doesn’t take much to make me tear up like movies, commercials, books.

Looking forward to: the summer heat being over only another month or so and I can enjoy the outdoors again! According to my baby app we only have 100 days left (of course that not really exact but I’m super excited!)